Wednesday, July 13, 2005

Mazel Tov

Babycakes took me to watch one of her relatives get married last weekend. Oy veh.

You'd think I'd know a bit about Jewish weddings by now, but no, there's always more to learn. At this wedding we were given a little booklet "... an informative guide about the many Jewish customs and traditions ..." I'd like share some of them:

B'Dekan -- where the groom greets the bride before the ceremony and lowers the veil over her face. I think he does this to be sure he's marrying the right woman.

Ketubah -- the marriage contract. The couple has to sign it before the wedding ceremony begins. Then they read it (in both hebrew and english) during the wedding. Most couples frame it and hang it in their house until they decide to get a divorce and then I think they throw it at each other.

Circling the Groom -- this doesn't have a cool hebrew name because it's stupid. The bride goes around and around seven times. The entire audience counts (silently, but you can see their lips moving). I think they only get married if she can still stand up.

The Chuppah -- this is the tent they stand under. You know it's not a Jewish wedding if they don't have a Chuppah. At some weddings they force the bridesmaids to hold it up during the ceremony but I'm glad they didn't do that this time. It was a long ceremony. Those girls can get pretty tired.

The Yichud -- apparently, the bride and groom go to a private place after the ceremony for "a short while." What's that about? Do they have sex? Right there in the synagogue? I didn't get enough information about this but I'll do some research and get back to you.

All in all, it was a lovely event. Babycakes told the bride's brother, "We'd invite all of you to our wedding but, as you know, WE CAN'T GET MARRIED." He said, "I can't do anything about that. I'm a lawyer, but I only do real estate."

3 comments:

msaphillips said...

Yichud (privacy)

The breaking of the glass and the singing that invariably follows it represent the last stage in the Chuppah ceremony, but there is another stage which must be observed, being seen as it is as an integral part of the wedding ceremony. This is the yichud, where bride and groom go to a small private room to spend some time alone.

Yichud (togetherness) corresponds to the third means of “acquiring a wife” – originally implying consummation, it has now become a symbolic aspect of the ceremony where the couple will be unaccompanied for the first time, making it important as a fulfilment of the contractual relationship.

Today, this is also the point where couples who have fasted through the day will break their fast, before rejoining their guests for the celebration.

dottcomments said...

Hooray for msaphillips over at Modest As Cake for doing my research for me!

Now I get it.

So, how do you pronounce that ...

MsAPhillips said...

yee HHOODuh, with the HH representing a soft-palate-scraping hairball sound.